vSAN RDMA cannot be enabled when the feature 'largeScaleClusterSupport' is enabled.
As of version 7.0 U3d, 32+ nodes are supported by default, so this feature, 'largeScaleClusterSupport' is deprecated, and the option to disable/enable this feature was removed from the vCenter Web Client. If you had enabled 'largeScaleClusterSupport' feature previously, there is no way to disable it from the vCenter Web Client after upgrading to 7.0 U3d.
Prior to upgrading to 7.0 U3d
After upgrading to 7.0U3d
Disabling large cluster support from the ESXi command line won't resolve this either.